It’s Time To Forgive Yourself! Peter asks Jesus in Matthew 18:21. . .Matthew 18:21 (KJV) Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times?
Here is the mark of true FORGIVENESS
IF WE ARE TOLD TO FORGIVE OTHERS 70 X 7 = 490 TIMES IN ONE DAY
How much more should YOU and I forgive ourselves in the same way every day..
To forgive yourself it takes high courage. You and I know our private history.
We know it better than we know others whom WE HAVE FORGIVEN. Many of us understand:
God has forgiven us
We have forgiven others who have wronged us, but freedom to forgive ourselves eludes us
There is no peace in our hearts
Something is not quite right
This inner storm comes from the unwillingness to FORGIVE OURSELVES For the wrongs we have committed. We need to make peace with God and with others when wrongdoing occurs
But, we must be willing to forgive ourselves
I heard the story of a teenager who got tied up sexually with an older teenager for about two years. He moved away suddenly and she went for counseling. She became emotionally involved with her counselor, and by the time she come to talk with her Pastor she was confused and desperate;
Thought about running away or committing suicide. She Said, “I know I am saved, but I feel so full of GUILT.
I can’t go on living.”
Pastor asked her, “Have you asked the Lord Jesus Christ to forgive you?”
She said, “I have asked him a hundred times to forgive me.”
“Well, has He forgiven you?” asked her Pastor
“I just don’t know. I feel so dirty” she replied
“But, did you has Jesus to FORGIVE YOU?”, was the question again from the Pastor
“Oh, I have asked Him many, many times.” I just don’t feel like I have been forgiven.”
Because of her testimony, I BELIEVE SHE WAS A CHRISTIAN.
What she did was so sinful and wicked in her eyes, that she could not believe A holy God could forgive SUSAN SAID SHE JUST COULDN’T FEEL GOD’S FORGIVENESS!
Being forgiven has nothing to do with feeling forgiven
Think of the disciple Peter:
Luke 22:61 (KJV) And the Lord turned, and looked upon Peter. And Peter remembered the word of the Lord, how he had said unto him, Before the cock crow, thou shalt deny me thrice.
Think of the man Saul, later known as Paul Before his conversion:
He beat and killed Christians
Destroyed church dwelling places
He may have remembered his own tasks and grappled with his own forgiveness
Many of us are – or have been – at that place at one time or another in our lives. We struggle with forgiving ourselves for:
Things we have done in the past
Things we have not done that we know we should have done before God
Even for mistakes that happened years and years ago.
Adults who have said and done cruel things as children
Committed shameful sins as teenagers
Some women who have had abortions experience a feeling of remorse deep inside
Men and women who have divorced and realize they were wrong and cannot let go
of their guilt’s.
Parents who drove their children away from home can’t forgive themselves
The ability to forgive ourselves is ABSOLUTELY ESSENTIAL
IF WE ARE TO FIND TOTAL PEACE AND LIVE A PRODUCTIVE LIFE.
READ AND MEDIATE ON PSA 103: 10-14
Psalms 103:10-14 (KJV) He hath not dealt with us after our sins; nor rewarded us according to our iniquities.
11. For as the heaven is high above the earth, so great is his mercy toward them that fear him.
12. As far as the east is from the west, so far hath he removed our transgressions from us.
13. Like as a father pitieth his children, so the LORD pitieth them that fear him.
14. For he knoweth our frame; he remembereth that we are dust.
HE REMEMBERS…THAT WE ARE DUST…WHAT ASSURANCE OF A FORGIVING FATHER.
THE CONSEQUENCES OF NOT FORGIVING OURSELVES
The problem is that some of us are not able to forgive ourselves because:
Think we are beyond forgiveness
What we really feel is disappointment in ourselves
Its a disappointment that confuses
IT IS BASED ON MEASUREMENT OF OUR SIN…WITH MERIT FOR OUR FORGIVENESS
We think the grater our sin, the lesser our forgiveness
In like manner, the LESSER OUR SIN, THE GREATER OUR FORGIVENESS
NOTE: Some sins may bring greater condemnation or punishment in the lives of believers. . . .
But, in God’s view point, SIN IS SIN . . . .FORGIVENESS IS FORGIVENESS!!!!
If we do not forgive ourselves, we can suffer:
Self Directed Unforgiving Spirit. . . .You and I will suffer
1. SELF PUNISHMENT
This is the first consequence of a self directed unforgiving spirit .
We punish ourselves on an ongoing basis. We replay our sins continually. “Oh, what have I done?”
“I am so ashamed.”
“God can never forgive me.”
“What if my friends and family were to find out what I did.”
You put yourself in a spiritual prison
In spite of the fact the bible NO WHERE STATES.
“GOD WILL FORGIVE OUR SINS, EXCEPT.”
Galatians 5:1 (KJV) Stand fast therefore in the liberty wherewith Christ hath made us free, and be not entangled again with the yoke of bondage.
Galatians 5:16 (KJV) This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh.
Galatians 5:17 (KJV) For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary the one to the other: so that ye cannot do the things that ye would.
Galatians 5:18 (KJV) But if ye be led of the Spirit, ye are not under the law.
Romans 8:1 (KJV) There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit.
Romans 8:2 (KJV) For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus hath made me free from the law of sin and death.
Galatians 2:20 (KJV) I am crucified with Christ: nevertheless I live; yet not I, but Christ liveth in me: and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by the faith of the Son of God, who loved me, and gave himself for me.
Galatians 2:21 (KJV) I do not frustrate the grace of God: for if righteousness come by the law, then Christ is dead in vain.
2. UNCERTAINTY
The second consequence of a SELF DIRECTED UNFORGIVING SPIRIT is we live under a cloud of uncertainty.
We will lack confidence that God has forgiven us.
We bear the weight of this guilt
Never quite sure where we stand with God
Not quite sure what He may do next because se feel so unworthy of His blessings
Listen to this scripture:
1 John 3:19 (KJV) And hereby we know that we are of the truth, and shall assure our hearts before him.
1 John 3:20 (KJV) For if our heart condemn us, God is greater than our heart, and knoweth all things.
1 John 3:21 (KJV) Beloved, if our heart condemn us not, then have we confidence toward God.
1 John 3:22 (KJV) And whatsoever we ask, we receive of him, because we keep his commandments, and do those things that are pleasing in his sight.
1 John 3:23 (KJV) And this is his commandment, That we should believe on the name of his Son Jesus Christ, and love one another, as he gave us commandment.
Also read:
Philippians 3:12 (KJV) Not as though I had already attained, either were already perfect: but I follow after, if that I may apprehend that for which also I am apprehended of Christ Jesus.
Philippians 3:13 (KJV) Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before,
Philippians 3:14 (KJV) I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.
Philippians 3:15 (KJV) LET US THEREFORE, AS MANY AS BE PERFECT, be thus minded: and if in anything ye be otherwise minded, God shall reveal even this unto you.
Let me tell you what happens when you forgive yourself
You RE-WRITE your script
What you are in your present scene is not tied down to
What You Did In An Earlier Scene!
The bad person you played in ACT ONE, is eliminated, and You Play ACT TWO
In ACT TWO as a GOOD Person
YOU RELEASE YOURSELF TODAY FROM YESTERDAYS SCENARIO
YOU WALK INTO TOMORROW . . . .GUILT FREE
3. A Sense Of Unworthiness
The third consequence of a SELF DIRECTED unforgiving spirit is that we develop a sense of UNWORTHINESS.
Because we are guilty, we also feel unworthy. We hold ourselves accountable for our sins…even tho God has forgiven and God has forgotten them. Satan starts you on the longest painful trip
in life…the GUILT TRIP
Why should God forgive me?
God will not hear what I am saying when I pray Look what I have DONE.
Satan keep getting us to replay in our minds what
IT AFFECTS OUR PRAYER LIFE
OUR INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD
OUR SERVICE FOR THE LORD
Revelation 12:9 (KJV) And the great dragon was cast out, that old serpent, called the Devil, and Satan, which deceiveth the whole world: he was cast out into the earth, and his angels were cast out with him.
Revelation 12:10 (KJV) And I heard a loud voice saying in heaven, Now is come salvation, and strength, and the kingdom of our God, and the power of his Christ: for the accuser of our brethren is cast down, which accused them before our God day and night.
Revelation 12:11 (KJV) And they overcame him by the blood of the Lamb, and by the word of their testimony; and they loved not their lives unto the death.
Hebrews 3:14 (KJV) For we are made partakers of Christ, if we hold the beginning of our confidence steadfast unto the end;
Hebrews 4:11 (KJV) Let us labor therefore to enter into that rest, lest any man fall after the same example of unbelief.
Hebrews 4:12 (KJV) For the word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart.
Hebrews 4:13 (KJV) Neither is there any creature that is not manifest in his sight: but all things are naked and opened unto the eyes of him with whom we have to do.
Hebrews 4:14 (KJV) Seeing then that we have a great high priest, that is passed into the heavens, Jesus the Son of God, let us hold fast our profession.
Hebrews 4:15 (KJV) For we have not an high priest which cannot be touched with the feeling of our infirmities; but was in all points tempted like as we are, yet without sin.
Hebrews 4:16 (KJV) Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need.
Hebrews 10:23 (KJV) Let us hold fast the profession of our faith without wavering; (for he is faithful that promised;)
Hebrews 10:35 (KJV) Cast not away therefore your confidence, which hath great recompense of reward.
Hebrews 10:36 (KJV) For ye have need of patience, that, after ye have done the will of God, ye might receive the promise.
Hebrews 10:38 (KJV) Now the just shall live by faith: but if any man draw back, my soul shall have no pleasure in him.
2 Timothy 1:7 (KJV) For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.
READ AND UNDERLINE:
Ephesians 1:17 (KJV) That the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of glory, may give unto you the spirit of wisdom and revelation in the knowledge of him:
Ephesians 1:18 (KJV) The eyes of your understanding being enlightened; that ye may know what is the hope of his calling, and what the riches of the glory of his inheritance in the saints,
Ephesians 1:19 (KJV) And what is the exceeding greatness of his power to us-ward who believe, according to the working of his mighty power,
Ephesians 1:20 (KJV) Which he wrought in Christ, when he raised him from the dead, and set him at his own right hand in the heavenly places,
Ephesians 1:21 (KJV) Far above all principality, and power, and might, and dominion, and every name that is named, not only in this world, but also in that which is to come:
Ephesians 1:22 (KJV) And hath put all things under his feet, and gave him to be the head over all things to the church,
Ephesians 1:23 (KJV) Which is his body, the fullness of him that filleth all in all.
FOUR STEPS TO TOTAL FORGIVENESS
STEP 1.
Recognize The Problem. “Father, I realize I haven’t forgiven myself and I am in bondage because of it.”
STEP 2.
Repent Of The Sin
“Father, I thank you for forgiving me for holding myself in bondage, for keeping myself from You, and for limiting Your use of my life.”
STEP 3.
Reaffirm Trust “Father, I reaffirm my trust my faith in the Word of God.
Stand on this scripture:
Psalms 103:12 (KJV) As far as the east is from the west, so far hath he removed our transgressions from us.
STEP 4
Confess You Are Free And Choose To Receive It
“Father, in the name of Jesus Christ, on the basis of you Word, by an act of my will, In Faith. I here and now forgive myself because you have already forgiven me. I accept forgiveness and I choose from this moment to be freed of all that I have held against myself. I expect the HOLY SPIRIT to bring to me confirmation in my spirit and outward signs In my life, Of TOTAL FORGIVENESS AND FREEDOM, AMEN.”
John 3:31 (KJV) He that cometh from above is above all: he that is of the earth is earthly, and speaketh of the earth: he that cometh from heaven is above all.
John 3:32 (KJV) And what he hath seen and heard, that he testifieth; and no man receiveth his testimony.
John 3:36 (KJV) He that believeth on the Son hath everlasting life: and he that believeth not the Son shall not see life; but the wrath of God abideth on him.
David Barnard